Someone once told me: "Your hair is green." There are two ways to approach that comment.
One: Say "What a ridiculous statement!" and go about my business forgetting the statement and knowing that my hair is NOT green.
OR
Two: I knew my hair was not green, but it got me thinking. Then searching. Then "seeing" that maybe there was a tinge of green to it, a chunk of green here and there, stripes of green in the back...
The moral of the story is: The more you tell yourself something, the more you'll believe it. So when talking to yourself, KEEP IT POSITIVE!!
Over-analyzing things can make things worse. I'll be the first to admit that I over-analyze many things, and am learning very slowly how damaging this can be, and how to react when someone tells me something. Get the facts...don't look for the green stripes!
Disclaimer: This was in high school when my hair changed colors very often. It never has been green.
And one more insight... if you actually ACTED on the false comment that 'your hair was green' because of your 'feelings' about the comment, you may have colored your hair to 'get rid of the green' --- Moral of the story - don't ACT based on 'feelings.' If you have an emotion about something that someone said or did - go ahead and feel the emotion and dismiss it as just a 'feeling.' Don't let it affect your actions. Your actions should be based in facts, reality, and faith (which is not a 'feeling'). Remember the Serenity Prayer: God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.
ReplyDeletelol NewNews, I have to ask...is that you, Mom?? And that insight is a very powerful one that I do very frequently. I'm learning slowly that feelings are just there...just a reaction at that time. Feelings aren't facts. I fell asleep with the Serenity Prayer in my head last night actually. lol. GMTA=Great Minds Think Alike
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